Kim's Counseling

Dear Kimberly,

My boyfriend and I just broke up recently and it was due to my
suspicions that he was cheating on me. I have had the feeling for a
while now (2 years of dating) and after looking at his phone while he was taking a shower I was just furious!!! I saw text messages from a girl flirting with him calling him "baby", "honey", "hottie" etc.. I didn't even tell him why, I just totally ignored him and I am not
talking to him at all. My best friend says its best to just not talking
to him anymore but I am feeling guilty because on his phone on his sent messages he was very serious with her and wasn't flirty. I did write down her name and number and have been tempted to call her but have not yet. He has left me voicemails and text messages that he doesn't know whats going on. He hasn't tried as much to contact me my friend said as most guys would do. So also I am feeling suspicious about it, maybe he has this other girl and doesn't care that much about us? What should I do?

Carla
Atlanta, GA

Well first of all, it's not your friend's relationship, it's your's. So you need to do what's right for you. Secondly, you shouldn't have gone through his texts, but you did and you really found nothing. You can't tell him what you found and ask about the texts because you invaded his privacy. You said he wasnt flirty and you have nothing else to go on. You should stop avoiding him and confront him if you believe he is being unfaithful. Leave out the part about the phone and have a discussion w/him...make your decision from that. The only way to solve a problem is to be upfront and communicate.

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