Kim's Kounseling Korner by Kimberly Martin
My best female friend always wanted to compete and once she did won her show and did really good at national level. But i have noticed that she is a changed person and not in a good way. I barely speak with her and she hangs around other competitors she used to not get along with. I am just worried that she is gonna get caught up in drama. She pretty much treats me like dirt but she is still my friend. How can i get her to her old self?
Thanks so much for the question. Well first off, I hope you have informed how proud you are of her and support her as best friends should do.
Secondly, she's definitely wrong in neglecting you but you need to let her know how hurt you feel. You probably need to be prepared for the fact that people do grow apart, and she may need her life to go in another direction...that doesn't include you.
Lastly, you can't force her to be the person she was before. As a good friend, you should want her to be happy and succeed, and if it means letting her go, then so be it.
Hope this helps...
About the Author...
My name is Kimberly Aline Martin, but I go by the name Kim. I was born in Decatur, GA on November 1st, 1969. I've lived in Georgia my whole life and can't imagine living anywhere else. Well, maybe Hawaii...
I've been married to my best friend for over 13 years and we have two wonderful children, both boys, ages 5 and 12.
We now reside north of Atlanta and I am currently a stay at home mom.
Three things I live by:
I truly believe 'what doesn't kill you, makes you stronger'....every obstacle in life that is overcome makes you a stronger individual.
I also believe that everyone makes mistakes and those mistakes shouldn't be regretted, but embraced because they make you the person you become.
Lastly, be consistent-about everything in your life-and surround yourself with people that do the same.
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