My boyfriend and I just broke up recently and it was due to my
suspicions that he was cheating on me. I have had the feeling for a
while now (2 years of dating) and after looking at his phone while he
was taking a shower I was just furious!!! I saw text messages from a
girl flirting with him calling him "baby", "honey", "hottie" etc.. I
didn't even tell him why, I just totally ignored him and I am not
talking to him at all. My best friend says its best to just not talking
to him anymore but I am feeling guilty because on his phone on his sent
messages he was very serious with her and wasn't flirty. I did write
down her name and number and have been tempted to call her but have not
yet. He has left me voicemails and text messages that he doesn't know
whats going on. He hasn't tried as much to contact me my friend said as
most guys would do. So also I am feeling suspicious about it, maybe he
has this other girl and doesn't care that much about us? What should I do?
Well first of all, it's not your friend's relationship, it's your's. So you need to do what's right for you. Secondly, you shouldn't have gone through his texts, but you did and you really found nothing. You can't tell him what you found and ask about the texts because you invaded his privacy. You said he wasnt flirty and you have nothing else to go on. You should stop avoiding him and confront him if you believe he is being unfaithful. Leave out the part about the phone and have a discussion w/him...make your decision from that. The only way to solve a problem is to be upfront and communicate.
About the Author...
My name is Kimberly Aline Martin, but I go by the name Kim. I was born in Decatur, GA on November 1st, 1969. I've lived in Georgia my whole life and can't imagine living anywhere else. Well, maybe Hawaii...
I've been married to my best friend for over 13 years and we have two wonderful children, both boys, ages 5 and 12.
We now reside north of Atlanta and I am currently a stay at home mom.
Three things I live by:
I truly believe 'what doesn't kill you, makes you stronger'....every obstacle in life that is overcome makes you a stronger individual.
I also believe that everyone makes mistakes and those mistakes shouldn't be regretted, but embraced because they make you the person you become.
Lastly, be consistent-about everything in your life-and surround yourself with people that do the same.
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